Journey - The Early Years

For anyone to understand the relationship I am in right now it's important to provide some background.  I will be brief and only touch on what affects my poly path.  There is more history that I could divulge, but this isn't the forum for that.  Maybe another blog?  Maybe not.

My second adult sexual experience* happened shortly after I went away to college.  I'd been with my HS "girlfriend" once before that and it was a confusing, unsatisfying experience and I usually don't even count it.    I became part of a table-top role playing game (GURPS) and was making friends with the people there.  A married couple invited me to come over and "hang out" after the game one night.  On the way there, they told me that they wanted to have a menage-a-trois.  It was exciting for me, and I said yes.  (NOTE: this isn't poly - just a step on the journey.)  I had a good relationship with that couple for a few months, and they bought me some porn, mostly stories, to help me explore my turn-ons.  This was my first step out of the closet into accepting that I like boys more than girls.  Once I came out of the closet (to myself and a few close friends) my sexual activity level skyrocketed.  It was all either anonymous or secretive, but there was a lot.

Fast forward a year and a half.  I had come out to most of my friends and I was enjoying life until I fell into a bout of major depression.  I dropped out of college and moved back with my folks.  A couple of months later I met another married couple.  We became friends, started hanging out and had dinner together most nights.  After we had established a friendship based on common interests, common religion, etc., they approached me about sharing more than just friendship.  She was attracted to me and he was curious to explore his bisexuality.  Our friendship grew stronger and we grew to love each other.  I was a secondary in the relationship, and we had something very worth having. (NOTE: This here's a poly triad.)

Eventually, we shared a house and they started actively trying for children.  I was going to be "uncle Rowan."  That was exciting.  It all ended with an unfortunate B&D mis-communication.  (Remember if it's a B&D scene, "No" is part of the role-play!)  He didn't use the safeword and had next-day bad feelings that we tried to resolve.  We failed.  I moved out, though we eventually rebuilt and maintained the friendship.

If it wasn't for my coven-mates, I would have died at my own hand during the initial time of feeling rejected and misunderstood.  Many of the people in the coven were poly, and eventually they were able to convince me that it wasn't poly that caused the problem.  Poly can work and like all relationships it takes work.  Some of them had been poly for a decade or more and their love was strong.

Well that's the early years...  there's more but that's enough for now.

*[I say "adult sexual experience" because I was already experienced with sex from a very young age.  That sexuality counts but it doesn't affect this poly journey directly.]