I moved from Nashville just around the time of the awfulness of the elections of 2000 (Bush v Gore, and the whole Florida BS.) I remember catching all of the news at either the Nashville, in Sparta with a new beau, or in Knoxville. The reason for moving is somewhat relevant. In brief, I had friends in Knoxville who needed me, and I moved because I could. The new beau didn't last, mainly because I wouldn't scrap my plan to move and instead move in with him. We had only been seeing each other for 3 weeks. I wasn't ready for that, but Knoxville was closer to Sparta so we could still see each other. Right? Blah blah blah, he couldn't handle it. Whatever.
While living in Knoxville, I finally met someone who I let myself love. The relationship lasted for almost 7 years, though it was only good for about 4 1/2. We moved in together after about 3 months, and about 6 weeks later I was told that my job was being relocated to Florida. I could move with it or take a tiny severance. We moved.
Our relationship was open to outside playmates, with certain boundaries.
- Always tell, if the other partner isn't there.
- Tell in advance, unless the other is unreachable or something gets out-of-hand. (That happened once, and the after-the-fact telling went very well.)
- It's preferable to arrange for both partners to be there to share the experience with a playmate.
- His preference was playmates, but not additional members of the relationship.
The relationship eventually deteriorated. As I made friends he promptly offended them in an irredeemable way and they left. He started drinking more and more, and finally I was worn down and totally out of emotions for him or anything else. I guess I let it go on longer than was good for me, but I kept hoping until I was just too exhausted to care anymore. The day I told him it was really over and he should look for a new place to live, we didn't even argue. I left to get some space, and when I came back he had attempted suicide. He was nearly dead on his bed, and there was an ambulance, police, the whole 9 yards. I left him in the hospital and wouldn't let them send him home. The emotional torture was finally over.
I fell into a horrible pattern of hoarding, hiding from the world, and only leaving the house for either work or casual sex. That went on for nearly a year, until I cast a spell to break me out of it. (I believe in magic; it's a religious thing.)
This brings us almost up to current events.
::HUGS:: I wish I'd known. I wish I could turn back time and make it not have happened. I'm glad you were able to pull out of it. You are an amazing person. I love you, I hope you know that.
ReplyDeleteThank you sweetheart. Please know that I will always love you and have a special place in my heart just for you.
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